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LASTING LONGERHow long should sex typically last? We’re talking the actual penetration part – not the whole shebang. Do women really want men to last hours?
Damian W via FHM.com.au
You wouldn’t believe how many men worry they’re underperforming in terms of sheer penetration time. The good news is that most women don’t expect or want porn-style, marathon sex. It’s hard to say how long it should typically last as every woman’s wants and needs are different, but if you’re consistently only able to last a minute or two inside her, then you might want to talk to your doctor. That said, if you’re able to satisfy her in other ways – through oral sex or with sex toys – she might not care that you come faster than Usain Bolt runs the 100.
MAKING TIME FOR SEX
My girlfriend and I don’t seem to have sex during the week anymore – we’re both too knackered when we get back from work. It’s far more appealing than just eating dinner and watching TV; how can we schedule it back in?
RMJ, via FHM.com.AU
The daily grind is for your sex life what Kryptonite is for Superman. Talk about it with her at a non-threatening moment, not when she’s just brushed off your advances. As unsexy as it might sound, suggest scheduling a mid-week “sexy night”. During that day, set the tone by sending her hot text messages. Plan a light dinner, then run a bath for her to unwind while you prepare the love den. Start by giving her a massage. Yes, it’s a bit of hard work, but it’s almost guaranteed to inject passion back into your weeknights.
OPEN RELATIONSHIPS
My girlfriend has asked for an open relationship for now “so she can make sure we are right for each other”. I feel like that translates to “so she can sleep with other people”. I’m not really cool with that, but don’t want to end it. What should I do?
Sam via FHM.com.au
I hate to break this to you, but she’s just not that into you. I apologise for quoting cheesy chick lit, but the rule is simple – if she really liked you, she wouldn’t want to be with anyone else. If you’re not comfortable with the idea of her seeing other guys, I strongly suggest you walk away now before you fall for her even harder and she breaks your heart. There is a girl out there who’ll only have eyes for you.
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