Ask Sabrina - January 2010
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THREESOMES
We go on about threesomes all the time, but beyond fantasy, is there any realistic way to convince your girlfriend to partake in one? With another girl, of course…
AZ, via email
You probably know the answer to your question already. If your girlfriend is generally open to sexual experimentation, you’ll have a much better chance of convincing her to have a threesome than if her idea of a wild night is getting on top. But while most women love the fantasy element of a threesome, it’s really difficult for many a girl to imagine watching the guy she loves going at it with another woman. Think about it: would you like to see her being pounded by some other dude? Didn’t think so. Ask her if she’s willing, but if she says no, don’t push the issue. Your best chance of having a threesome is with two girls you trust but don’t know very well – no emotional attachment means no one gets hurt.
OFFICE FLIRT
There’s a girl at work who keeps coming on to me, but I’m not interested. How do I get her to stop without insulting her?
Mick, via FHM.com.au
The first step is to make sure you’re not giving her any positive signals – be polite but standoffish. Although it may not be entirely honest, mentioning a “girl you’re seeing” could get her to back off while sparing her ego. If that doesn’t work, be more direct. Next time she makes
a sexy innuendo, tell her, “I think you’re a really nice girl, but I don’t feel comfortable with any interaction in the workplace that’s beyond professional.” She should get the picture.
DOMINATION FANTASY
My girlfriend loves to be dominated in bed. I’m not complaining, but is it normal for women to fantasise about being taken by force?
Tom G, via email
Don’t worry, it’s common for women to fantasise about submitting to a strong, powerful man. Like many other fantasies, what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom, and it doesn’t mean she’d want it to happen in real life. Make sure you communicate openly about your turn-ons and limits, so you both feel comfortable and trust each other, then have fun with it! You can pin her down with your own body weight or try tying her up with one of your ties, scarves or even handcuffs. Now go show her who’s boss!
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