Ask Sabrina - March 2010
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Get the latest advice from the frontline of gender relations from
FHM’s sex and relationships soothsayer.
Do you have a question for Sabrina?
Email her here and she could answer it in her column in a future issue of the magazine. Don't forget to pick up
this month's mag for her latest column!
GIRL-FRIENDLY FILMS
Can you recommend some girl-friendly porn and sex toys? I’ve convinced my girl to give both a go, but she’s quite shy and I don’t want to freak her out.
NAME WITHHELD
When choosing porn, go for high-quality productions such as the Private and Adam & Eve collections. Porn is less intimidating if it’s not super seedy and the girls look like they’re having fun. Many women find films that focus on one female lead and have seductive story-lines less threatening than those that jump right into hardcore action. As for sex toys, start with a small, discreet vibrator and introduce it in a fun way along with other playful accessories such as blindfolds or fuzzy handcuffs. Ease her into it by turning it into a game and not pressuring her to do anything she’s not comfortable with. If you play your cards right, soon she’ll be the one suggesting a sexy night in.
STOP BICKERING
My girlfriend and I keep arguing over stupid stuff and I always seem to lose. Is there a way we can stop the arguments from happening in the first place?
NAME WITHHELD
Needless to say, communication is the key. Wait for a moment when you’re not arguing to calmly tell her you feel you’ve been bickering too much and want to fix it. Try to identify the triggers for the arguments together. Do you lash out at each other after a stressful day at work? Is she on edge after visiting her family? If you can pinpoint the source of your arguments, you’ll be more likely to see them coming and able to avoid them. Next time things start getting heated, calmly say, “Let’s not argue about this, it’s not worth it.” If she’s willing to do her bit, you’ll
be back in tune in no time.
DELAYING THE INEVITABLE
I didn’t have regular sex for a while because I was working overseas, away from my wife. Since I’ve been back, I tend to ejaculate too quickly. Can
you give me some advice on lasting longer?
Ben, via FHM.com.auTry contracting your PC muscle, which is located around your penis, testicles and anus (exercising it will help your cause). Alternatively, apply pressure with your fingers to the perineum – the area between your anus and scrotum – which can help congest the flow of sperm. Another trick is to gently pull on your testicles when you feel the urge to come. Finally, interrupting sex will delay things, but keep your lady aroused during the break!
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