Q: "My girlfriend hasn't come before, and clearly I want to change that. What can i do to give myself the best chance of breaking her duck? Any ideas?" Campbell (
via website)
A: "It is common that many women have never climaxed during sex before," says Nikki Gee. "Submitting this question is a fantastic display of determination towards sexual euphoria for your girl."
"Communication and sex are not always lumped together in the same sentence. However, in this particular forum, communication is the key!
"You need to be in tune to what turns her on sexually and encourage her to be open with you about any fantasies or issues that may affect the ultimate goal to pleasure. Create an environment where she will feel at ease discussing such intimate details.
"Sex is not the only pathway to an orgasm. Oral stimulation may be even more tantalizing. Take your time with this, it is not a race and definitely something that should not be rushed. You could also turn this move into a 69 position for your pleasure as well.
"Toys can also be of great assistance in times of need or as an exciting way to spice things up. Products that stimulate the clitoris can be extremely effective and a lot of fun to use, especially for her.
"If you are going to take it all the way, the golden rule is "Foreplay Foreplay Foreplay!"
"Women are wired differently to men and can’t always just switch it on. We need to be turned on both emotionally and sexually.
"Take the time to stimulate her mind as well as her body. Kiss and stroke her and make her feel desirable and sexually attractive. Foreplay can start before you enter the bedroom.
"Get your girl in the right frame of mind by sending a saucy text, touching her gently in an intimate place or whispering sexual desires in her ear.
"During the journey to pleasure, keep an open line of communication so she can inform you what feels good and what doesn’t. If you are really creative than you could turn this task into something a little more kinky. NB. Don’t go too far into the gutter, unless she likes it that way.
"And remember: don’t see getting her over the edge as a challenge. Pressure and stress may negatively impact on the situation and your performanc, so relax and enjoy exploring each other sexually.
"If she doesn’t climax the first time then keep trying. Practice makes perfect and I’m sure this is something you will want to practice over and over again.
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